Today was not the best day. As I sat at work writing “Bird Arena, LTPH” on countless pieces of hockey gear (for five hours, no less) I began thinking about my life, and the things I do to make myself life a full and happy life, so I compiled a list.
Here’s what I came up with:
1.Don’t base your decisions on someone else. Many of the decisions you are making may seem silly now, but you’ll look back and regret not going out with your friends or not doing things because of someone else. DO THEM. Chances are, if someone is holding you back (even if you don’t realize it) they won’t be in your future. Take advantage of the opportunity to hang out with your mom and dad at home for an evening, or go out with your friends, even if it seems silly. You’ll regret it if you don’t. Also, don’t pick a major because someone else wants you to, or shy away from one. Most college students change their majors 987459q8379 times before graduation – and it’s ok. You’re young, you have to figure out what you’re good at. Don’t worry, just be yourself.
2. Establish yourself. Going off of not basing decisions on others, you must establish yourself as a person. You must be confident enough to stick to your guns, and stand up for yourself. Whether it be deciding not to go out one night or not letting someone take advantage of you, you must establish the reputation as someone who will not let someone walk all over them, otherwise, people WILL. If you let people know who you are and what you stand for, you will earn respect. Be yourself, because I guarantee that by being yourself, you WILL establish yourself as a person.
3. Follow your gut. If it feels right, it probably is. Whether you feel like something just isn’t working out, or you feel like its the best thing, it probably is – your gut is usually right. Take your own advice, do what feels right, and don’t ignore those feelings because they work as warning signs.
4. “Do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life.” My dad says that to me all the time, and he’s right. You have to find what makes you happy and what you’re good at, and build a future and career from there. No one wants to wake up one day and ask themselves, “How the hell am I going to do this for the next 30 years?” This time in your life, when you’re young, is the time to figure that out. So, explore, immerse yourself in activities, and don’t let anyone hold you back.
5. Make your opinions known. No, I’m not saying you need to be known as an opinionated bitch, but you have to let people know you have opinions, and you’re willing to stick by them. This will help you.
6. Change is ok. When major changes happen, you have to accept them. Yeah, right now it might feel like the world is ending, but I promise, it’s not. Things will get better, they always do.
7. It doesn’t really matter what people think about you. Sure, you care, everyone does – but who really cares if those girls or that guy don’t like you? You can’t please everyone, and you shouldn’t try to, you’ll only end up unhappy. Sure, perception is important and you should strive to create a good perception of yourself (and follow-through with that perception) but ultimately, if you’re happy and like yourself, that’s all that matters.
8. Exploit your resources. ASK ASK ASK!! Don’t be afraid of asking questions to help yourself find out what you want to do with the rest of your life. Your future is important, and mentors and professionals realize that (believe it or not they were once in your position) and they do want to help you.
9. Respect yourself. If you command respect, you will receive respect. Be someone who deserves respect. Live your life in a way that you will not be embarrassed by the things you’ve done the next morning.
10. Attitude is everything. One of my favorite quotes is, “The only difference between a good day and a bad day is your attitude.” If you think positively, you will be positive, and you will have fewer bad days.