Today, I turn 27. Not a major milestone, and as we get older, birthdays tend to ‘mean less‘ to some. For me, birthdays have been and always will be special. (#notsorry). For me, this day has turned into a day of reflection over the last year. The good, the bad, the average.
Last year, I posted 6 things I learned before 26, and its been one of my most popular posts to date.
This year, I thought I’d share some thoughts on this blog and what it means to me in my life, why I do it, and why I sometimes struggle with it.
If you know me on a personal level at all, you know putting together outfits gives me immense joy. It’s been something I’ve loved for years, and one of the barriers to starting this blog was a fear of putting myself out there and whether or not this passion is as worthy of other passions. I used to question this all the time, but I’ve learned to tune out the snide and sarcastic comments and remember that I may not understand others the way I understand myself, and that’s ok. To each their own, everyones lives unfold differently.
Not only have I learned to tune out those who may not understand why I do what I do, but I’ve also learned to stop comparing myself to other bloggers. Whenever I start to think, ‘Why did xx blogger get this partnership’ or ‘…invited to this event and not me.’ I focus on why I started this blog. Success on Stilettos was started as a passion project, a side hustle. Yes, it’s brought me some great opportunities and, yes, a little supplemental income, but there are a LOT of people out there that are more successful than me. I have to remember that comparison if the thief of joy. (Taking our own advice is hard sometimes!)
Anytime I’m asked why I started this blog I always respond with this:
I was taught growing up that how you present yourself (what you’re wearing, etc) is your first impression. Despite what you may tell yourself, first impressions are important. As twentysomething in the working world, I am constantly making first impressions. I want to show women that we can look and feel just a good as women in magazines without breaking the bank. This is my passion, and this blog is my creative outlet.
Though I love my ‘day job’, this blog has definitely kept me sane over the years, and I hope to continue to be able to create content for you in a meaningful way.
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